today i learn that i have to trust bell hooks, who once said:
"knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. when we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
it is ourselves that we have to trust, first and foremost.
to face any pain with bravery; perhaps if we cannot confront or ask her today, ask her another day, "what makes you hurt?"
to face any hardship with perseverance.
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it is us we can rely upon. it is us we rely upon. believing in yourself does not equal to being selfish and individualist, neglecting others' needs; for we could keep ourselves when we help others to keep their sanity intact.
thank you, bell hooks, for a kind reminder.
written while listening to Layur and Rara Sekar - Insignificant Other.
